365 Letters to Myself
August 10th, Arrogance...
To define arrogant =
Having or displaying a sense of overbearing self-worth or self-importance.
Marked by or arising from a feeling or assumption of one's superiority toward others.
the act of arrogant
I wonder out loud do we really know how much damage is done by arrogance, being arrogant. For what? Selfish gain, a moment of feeling ‘high’, victorious. What’s sad is there’s a sense it is ‘worth it’, as was said to me without hesitation and with exactly that self-importance and superiority as in the definition. Most often arrogance is not a position or behavior, for the greater good. It may be possible, if we look beyond towards the motives, to find understanding. But because we identify its source doesn’t stop it from happening, unless those possessing it own it. A vicious circle, would they be so if they themselves realized they, have it? Some wear it like a badge, cling to it for the value it’s providing or gap it fills. My thoughts, the more they are, the larger their low self-esteem, disconnect to meaning, the deficit of love they are living with. They are in need of help.
As with any perceived negative traits, there is a flip of the coin and opportunity to channel it more positively. A healthy ‘labeled’ arrogance, may simply be confidence in action, a take charge/get it done instinct, an assumption from others without knowing the motives are more genuine. Is part of the problem making the judgement, that is what we impose, a measuring and or evaluation. Before I want to suggest someone is arrogant, is it possible for me to first seek the motives and where able consider compassion if determined “it IS all about them.”
Hmmm, How lonely…day 28!
Thank you if you choose to join the journey. Let's hope it is more fun than tears!