365 Letters to Myself

Pick a Side

What does it mean to pick a side? What beliefs go into the decision making of doing so?

In my opinion, choosing ‘a side’ is aligned to being in agreement of the information, shared positions, view favorably-perhaps even of a person… trust may factor in as well and or overall indifference. If I apply such a definition to a situation that happen to me – it certainly does not give me a good look – which is a significant blow to my being, all I did, gave in 50 years of family living and 3+ decades of passionate work. Am I being overly dramatic, extreme – sort of, but some of the random ‘belief’ arguments I debate in my thoughts, around my event…

~A hired Advisor was deemed more credible, knowledgeable of best interests... no way!

~My awarded work, hands-on education, experience-invalidated, questioned... small-minded!

~History of delivered results became irrelevant, over a singular corrected oversight... really?!

~Character didn’t matter... hello, it does!

~Ignorance to knowing the whole me, my principles... unfortunate big mistake!

~Disregard for my professional reputation and respect... this is not about me!

~Determining one story was all the truth needed, no curiosity for additional details... controlling?!

~A father’s legacy, his will and judgement, no longer held in highest regard... others' know better, not!

~The discomfort of the situation couldn’t go on, I was expendable... realistic.

And sadly more - I am thinking too much.  The overarching summary I arrive at, I experienced at the hands of siblings/in laws (and paid Consultants)… a decision… a choice… that comes back simply if unpacking; an absence of belief in, and for me – strong enough to not question in a meaningful manner a change in course (over self-serving desires leading the way).  A side is taken, and an extended family, company, industry, mutual acquaintances accepted it out of fear, passiveness, a preferred understandable neutrality (business is business, not personal, right?). Me, my family, mom, and our friends remain on an unplanned sideline because the decision, choice remains ‘right’ in the eyes of those who chose, supported by 'life/business goes on'.

What does it matter, seriously I agree, – this is 9 years old!!!  New opportunities taken, possibilities presented, growth experiences, expanded network, change of life pace, many good things, open doors! I AM BLESSED, resilient and free from non-believers. But loss, is loss and nothing replaces sudden (and perceived 'security') loss – especially, when the loss comes down to not being believed in, by those that are ‘family’ through blood, or chosen. And always, truth – integrity, still matter to my core values.

Why blog (my private opinions/reality) – the power of not holding it in, aka therapy…to put it out there with empowerment, not victimhood - my acquired empathy, to encourage informed choices, inspire a better way. Stories create impact, are meant to be told, written. What if – my posting changes paths for one family, expands anyone’s decision making process (or alters an Advisors' 'advice') - Amen!

Hmmm, and never repick? 309!

Thank you if you choose to join the journey. A better life, a better way.

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