January 17th - Too direct...
My job is to listen! Then why do I just not do so. It is frustrating when I go into more fixing than listening mode. Ugh!!! There is no reason to act as if I know best – which I did say but still.
Had a nice happy hour/dinner with a friend. They continue to struggle in their work situation – like the job/work, do not care for their boss. I am familiar with the individual, the situation. This time, I found myself being a bit more challenging, since we have discussed it before, and before. I respect the goal of my friend, but I did try to impose (more than I should), the reality. It is difficult to believe both the dream, anything is possible and care about whether one may be setting themselves up for disappointment and hardship. Hello life coach in me, screams – it is not my affair to manage, my job is to listen!
I hope overall my (excessive) words were more supportive, helpful than not. None of us want to have our goals discouraged. In the end, I did give backing to the direction chosen and encouraged that ‘something’ by end of 2023…will be different!
Take cue, sometimes all someone wants from us is empathic silence!
Hmmm, felt like being the hard guy…day 177!
Thank you if you choose to join the journey. Let's hope it is more fun than tears!